Wednesday, February 29, 2012

My vicarious life

I've come to the conclusion that my vicarious life is more exciting than my real one. LOL

It's been an on-going joke with my friend Suzanne that I'm living vicariously through her as she moved from Australia to the UK and she shares her life with me through her beautiful photographs.  (One day I will go to the UK!)

I'm also now living vicariously through 2 of my besties that are expecting babies this year.  I'm so thankful and blessed that these 2 friends allow me to share in this wonderful occasion with them and I look forward to spoiling these children!!

And then there were 3.........(Week 9)

**WARNING......spoilers**

Our 3 lucky ladies and their boyfriend head off to Switzerland this week.......why do I think of Bella from Twilight when I hear this word? *grin*

Nicki

Ben and Nicki take a helicopter ride and end up on the top of a mountain for a picnic.  They get to see some of the most gorgeous scenery.

Later they have dinner in a log cabin and we learn that Ben wants 4 kids and Nicki only wants 2....but she doesn't mind having a big family. 

During the date Ben pulls out the mysterious card (yeah, like we don't see those EVERY season).....and Nicki accepts and goes off to the fantasy suite with Ben.  There is a cozy fireplace and a hot tub..........yep, gotta have a hot tub, it's a pre-req for the Bachelor.


Lindzi

Lindzi and Ben go rappelling about 300 ft down a gorge.  Umm yeah, not me says the chicken.

And where do they end up after their adventure.........if you guessed a hot tub, you would be correct.  An outdoor one at that.

Then they later have dinner at this fancy place (Ben was wearing this ugly bow tie and he looked dorky) and SURPRISE.........She also gets a mysterious card from Ben.  Which she says yes to....and they end up in a beautiful fantasy suite.

Lindzi tells Ben that she's open & vulnerable and that she's falling in love with him.

Ben tells us, "I love Lindzi.  She's everything I want in a relationship."


Courtney

Ben and Courtney go on a wonderful train ride and have beautiful views.  Then they end up in a little town and they go to different shops picking up things for their picnic.

They picnic with cows and even play this stupid game of "Hey Cow".  (I could make a comment here, but I'll refrain)

Courtney tells Ben that she feels bad for how she was with the girls.  He bought it, but I didn't.  She's fake, we all see it, but he doesn't.

A few Courtney quotes (with my quotes added for no extra charge):

"What you see is the real me"  (pardon me while I roll my eyes here)

"My guard was up"  (Hmmmm, I'm wondering when this was........was it in PR when you went skinny dipping?  Nope, I don't think so.   Yeah, don't know anyone who's guard was more down......)

"I want normal in my life and that's what you are" (In other words, she's telling him that he's boring.  Which has been made obvious by her always looking away, playing with her hair, biting her lip, etc.....)

At their dinner, Ben comes up with yet another one of those mysterious cards.  I know that you're gonna be as shocked as I was (NOT) when I tell you that Courtney accepted to spend the nite in the fantasy suite with Ben.

And they even had a hot tub that was in the shape of a barrel.  Cozy.........*gag*


Kacie B

Well, Kacie was sent home last week, but she arrived in Switzerland to get some answers.

Ben tells Kacie "Did I see you in the end? No."  OUCH. Wonder if that was the answer BEFORE he talked to her parents.

Kacie told Ben that she still cares about him and she warned Ben about Courtney because she doesn't want his heart to get broken.

Ben sends her once again on her way.  It's okay Kacie, he's not good enough for you.


Final Rose Ceremony

Final 2 are: Lindzi and Courtney

Nicki is sent home.


Am I surprised by this outcome? Nope. Am I disappointed? yep.  I liked Ben, but watching him has changed my opinion.  I believe that he's going to pick Courtney and in my opinion good for him and if he does pick her, Lindzi should be glad that he doesn't pick her.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

And we're off to hometowns.........Week 8

**WARNING........Spoilers**

Ocala, FL - Lindzi

Welcome to the Sunshine State!  (AKA.....home of yours truly) Ben arrives to find Lindzi riding a horse........anyone sense a deja vu here??  She then proceeds to take him on a carriage ride.

They then go to meet Lindzi's parents and they learn that her parents were married at the City Hall in SF, which is where Lindzi & Ben's first date was.  *hums twilight zone music*

There is a carriage race......the parents vs. Ben/Lindzi.......the parents win, so as the losers, Ben & Lindzi have to pull the parents' carriage back.

Later in the evening there are smores roasted over a camp fire.

Ben says about Lindzi....."She's humble, grounded......I like that."



Clarksville, TN - Kacie B

Ben arrives at a football field and is surprised by a marching band and in the back of the band.......there is Kacie twirling her baton.  Awwwwww how sweet.

After she finished her number, she ran and jumped into Ben's arms.

They then have a little picnic in the football stadium, which we learn was named after her grandfather.

Kacie tells Ben about her dad and says that he doesn't drink and he's a probation officer.  This concerned Ben and made him nervous.

They go to Kacie's house and Ben meets her parents and her sister.

During the chat with her dad, Ben is quoted as saying "I'm not sure he likes me".

While chatting with her mother, she informs Ben that she's concerned about them moving in together and living together.....that she would be disappointed.

This date/day didn't go as well as planned and it was an awkward goodbye.


Fort Worth, TX - Nicki

Nicki immediately takes Ben and they go and get cowboy boots and cowboy hats.  Yeah.......Ben looks like a complete dork in a cowboy hat, so I don't recommend that look for him.

They arrive at Nicki's house and he gets to meet her parents and her brother Matt.  Her parents are divorced, but they were both here to meet Ben.

Nicki had a chat with her mom and she told her mom that she was falling in love with Ben and that he'd make a good husband and father.

When she chatted with her dad, he kept telling her that he thinks that he let her down because of her getting hurt with her first marriage.

I'm assuming that Ben chatted alone with the mom, dad, and brother, but we didn't see any of this footage.

At the end of the evening, Nicki's dad said that he gives his total support.  Wow.  And the brother also gave his approval by saying "I like that guy."

Ben said that they were a warm, inviting and wonderful family and said that he has a "great gut feeling about Nicki".  hmmm doesn't that sound like he's in love with her......umm not to me.


Scottsdale, AZ - Courtney


Okay, this had to be the weirdest hometown date ever, but considering who's hometown visit it is, it's not really surprising.

Courtney started off her visit with a visit to her parents.  He also got to meet her sister.

Courtney told her family "I like him/love him".  However, her mom said "I'd be surprised if she is in love with him.  I'm not sold on it."  (I'm with the mom on this one)

In a talk with her dad, he tells Ben that marriage is a bet and that you have a 50/50 chance.  And asks Ben if he's ready to take that bet.   Odd.....very odd.

Courtney has a talk with her mom and during their whole conversation, Courtney plays with her hair.  Guess Ben isn't the only one that bores Courtney eh?

After they leave the family, Courtney takes Ben on a picnic.  Courtney confesses "I'm 100% in love with Ben, but I haven't told him yet."

During this picnic, Courtney has it all set up like a wedding.......the chairs, the preacher, they write vows, she puts a bow tie on Ben, they walk down the aisle and read their vows in front of the preacher.  Exchange twist tie rings..........yeah, totally creepy.  But totally something I'd expect from Courtney.


Rose Ceremony

Receive Roses:  Courtney, Lindzi, and Nicki
Goes home: Kacie B


Kacie B was heartbroken and I think that Ben is dumb.  If he ends up with Courtney, he deserves to.  Kacie was a nice, sweet girl and I think that they would have been a couple that could succeed.

My thoughts on this though are.....after his talk with Kacie's parents, he knew that they don't approve of Kacie living with him, so since the next date was fantasy dates........he probably thought that Kacie would not choose to stay in the fantasy suite with him......so..............maybe that's why he decided to let her go.   Just my opinion.......

 


Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Belize it or not........(Week 7)

This week's adventure takes our contestants (oops, I mean Bachelorettes) and Bachelor to Belize.

1st date - "Two halves make a whole": Lindzi

The date starts off in............a helicopter.  Yep, another helicopter.  This is getting a little old....need a new mode of transportation here guys.

Ben and Lindzi are circling over this beautiful body of water and Ben says that they're going to jump out of the helicopter and straight into the water.   They were going to take a "Leap of Faith".  And they did.

After this leap, they had a nice romantic dinner on the dock.  Then they wrote a letter and put it in a bottle and threw it into the water.  Say it with me now.......Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.


2nd date - "Do you Belize in love": Emily


Whoa....they must have been listening.......Emily was picked up in a puddle jumper plane and taken to meet Ben.

Ben and Emily have a casual fun and relaxing kind of date.  They road bikes through town, bought coconuts and drank out of them, play basketball with locals, hold hands, go shopping, and dancing.

Then they stumble upon a lobster fisherman and he takes them out to catch lobster.  It looked like fun.  They each caught one.  Woohoo.....Way to go!

They proceed to the Lazy Lizard to eat their lobsters that they caught for dinner.  (but I wonder...how do they know that they were really the ones that they caught.....things that make ya go hmmmmmm)

Meanwhile back at the house during Emily's date, the poor girls are having to listen to Courtney whine and complain and say that she's feeling down, and she doesn't think she wants to take him home.

Funny how much that changes when the next date card arrives....

3rd date - "Let's take the next steps in our relationship": Courtney

Courtney's response to this date card: "He's a smart boy, he listens".  More like he's dumb and should have sent you home in a helicopter.

Courtney leaves in a plane to meet up with Ben.  (yep, plane ride #2

They walk through a jungle and *stumble* upon a Mayon temple with tons of steps.  What do they do, you ask?  Well, they climb up the steps of course.  About halfway up the steps, they have a picnic.  This is where Courtney confides in Ben that the "spark has fizzled" for her. All the while playing with her hair and biting her lip.  As Ben listens, he clearly looks confused.

After the picnic, they climb to the top of temple and hang out.  Ben feels close to his dad being up there and then proceeds to say: "I can see my life with this woman.Really??  Uh, I can't.  I give it a few days, tops.....and that's being generous.

They go to dinner and Ben wants to talk to her about the other girls.  Courtney, being Courtney, lies through her teeth and says: "I've tried to win them over. I compliment them." "They're so vanilla and into themselves." "I'm not impressed by these girls."

Of course then she later says (not to Ben of course):  "Snap. Girls show's over. Pack your bags. You can all go home.


4th date - "Let's sea who's family I will meet": Rachel, Nicki, Kacie

Ben wakes the girls up at 4AM and tells them to put on their swimsuits.

They promptly begin getting ready, which involves shaving arms in the sink and shaving legs in the shower. 

They meet Ben and they go out on a boat.  Where Ben informs them that they will be shark diving in shark alley. 

Kacie and Nicki thought it was cool and Rachel looked terrified.  (I'm with Rachel on this one)

Kacie and Nicki jumped right in and started swimming with the sharks and sting rays.  Meanwhile Ben was trying to convince Rachel to get in...........she finally did and Ben held her hand most of the time.  This made Kacie jealous and she said that this wasn't fun anymore.

I admire Rachel for even getting in, because I wouldn't have gotten out of the boat.  I'd have been saying "Go ahead! Send me home."

They went back to the hotel after the shark diving and hung out. 

During his one on one time with the girls, he found out that not only 1 girl was falling in love with him, but 2 were.  Nicki and Kacie told him that they were falling.

Kacie received the rose of the date.

Courtney watched their date from the balcony and saw that Kacie received the rose.  To which she said about Kacie "She's like a little girl in a boy's body." and then she told us "I'm over these catty girls".

The girls tell Ben to "tread lightly" with Courtney.

Rose Ceremony

There is no cocktail party because Ben knew what he wanted to do.  Right before he handed out roses, he pulled Courtney aside and talked to her and asked if she was here for the right reasons..........well of course she said she was.........even though everyone except Ben knows that she isn't.

So you'd think Ben would send Courtney home, right?  haha NOPE.  He kept her around.

Roses: Kacie, Lindzi, Nicki, and Courtney
No Rose: Emily, Rachel

 Maybe if Emily and Rachel had told Ben that they were falling in love with him they might have stuck around a little while longer.


Next week it's hometown dates........this should be interesting.  Stay tuned..........









Valentine's Day/S.A.D...........just another day?

Well, yesterday was Valentine's Day. Did you spend the day with someone you love?  I sure hope that you did.  I was blessed to spend my Valentine's Day with my parents and my sister.

Yesterday was also known as S.A.D. (Single Awareness Day). 


But, I wonder.......do we really need a day to be aware of the fact that we're single?  Umm nope, I'm pretty sure that I know that I'm single every day......just seems that Valentine's Day emphasizes the fact that yep.......you're alone.......all alone.

Granted I think that if you have someone you love, you should love them every day, not ONLY on Valentine's Day.  Be thankful for every minute, hour, day that you have to spend with them and love them.

One thing I wish some people remembered though............just because someone is single......doesn't always mean that they chose to be single. 

I didn't choose to be single, but I am single. (and yes, I'm looking)  The only thing that I've wanted since I was a little girl was to be a wife and a mother.  Sadly, I am neither.  That doesn't mean that I'm going to give up this desire, just that maybe it's still not my time yet.  (I hope


Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Panama City (Week 6)

**WARNING....spoilers**

So this week we start our journey in Panama City.  Florida?  Nope, Panama.  (Yep, never been to that P.C.)

1st date - "Will our love survive...pack 3 things":  Kacie B

This dates takes our Bachelor and Kacie off in..............(yep, you guessed it).......a helicopter!  I know, you're just as shocked as I am, right? Not!

They landed on a deserted island and they immediately reveal the 3 things that they brought with them.

Kacie B: stuffed monkey, McGuyver tool, candy
Ben: machete, fishing net, matches

Obviously Ben's things came in more handy, but in Kacie's defense, he knew what they were doing and she did not.

They spent time on the island rescuing coconuts from trees, capturing fish, and enjoying each other's company. 

Can love survive..........yep, guess it did because Kacie B got the rose.


2nd date - "Let's get lost":  Emily, Nicki, Lindzi, Casey S, Courtney, and Jamie

Well, I was kind of hoping that with that description that maybe Courtney was going to get the boot.  I know, I'd like to tell her to get lost.......however, I think the only thing lost on this date were Courtney's clothes. *sigh*

The group and Ben go down the river in this huge canoe.  The water looked like mud.  (yuck)

They arrive at this location where a tribe lives.  Seems that the tribe had been expecting them as they all came out as soon as they arrived. The men took Ben away and the ladies grabbed the girls and took them into these huts.

The women gave the girls new clothing (not much of it) to wear.....and one of the tribe women showed the girls what needed to be under the top.....which was nothing.  However, most of the girls opted to keep their bikini tops and bottoms on and just put the new *clothes* on top of them.  Yep, you read right.....most........dear 'ol Courtney went commando under her new clothes........which caused the network to have to blur out the screen quite a bit during this date.

Ben came out in nothing but a loin cloth........and the girls were pleased.  Ben was also pleased........with Courtney.....as she was the only girl that was blurred.

The group drew on each other and made these ink tattoos.  Courtney drew a B+C= <3 on Ben's back.  Really?? Are you in elementary or something???

After the day with the tribe, they cleaned up and went back to the hotel to hang out.  During Ben's time with Courtney she invited him to come to her room later. 

Lindzi got the rose on this date......much to Courtney's chagrin.

Courtney didn't care though.......she went to her room and got all prettied up and waited for Ben.  But, yay for Ben.......he didn't show up!!  Good for you Ben. Proud of ya!!

3rd date - "Save the last dance for me": Rachel & Blakeley

On the dreaded 2 on 1, they went salsa dancing.  However, when Blakeley danced.........I think she needed a pole. 

After dancing, they went to dinner.  Awkward.  Go on a date with a guy and another girl........how romantic. uh yeah.....Can you say third wheel??  Ben spent time with each girl.  Blakeley showed Ben the scrapbook that she made of him.  (That's kind of creepy).......evidently Ben thought so to, as Blakeley was the one sent home on the 2 on 1 date.  To show her maturity, Blakeley stormed off.  Oh well, not sad to see the big teeth leaving.


Before the cocktail party, Chris comes and gets Casey S (the mysterious girl).  Chris talks to Casey S about her ex, maybe not ex boyfriend Michael.  She explains that she's still in love with Michael, however he won't marry her, so she came on the show to see if Ben would marry her.  Yeah, that's CRAZY!  Chris says that she needs to be honest and tell Ben, so they go see him together.  After Casey S spills her guts that she's still in love with Michael, Ben tells her "I think you should go home". And she's sent home.

Jamie talks to Ben during the party and decides to make her move and show Ben that she is interested in him.  Only thing is.......she came on way too strong.  She'd been so reserved with him and then to all of a sudden straddle him in her short dress and start kissing him was a bit much to take.  He said it was like from 0 to 60.  She then was coaching him on how they should kiss.  Not the best one on one time......which sealed her fate.

Rose Ceremony:

Roses:
Kacie B
Rachel
Lindzi
Nicki
Courtney
Emily

No rose:
Blakeley
Casey S
Jamie


Wednesday, February 1, 2012

PR.....(Week 5)

**Warning: Spoilers**

And so begins another week in the life of the Bachelor. 

This week takes us to Puerto Rico.

1st date: Nicki

Ben and Nicki go walking around Old San Juan............but they are caught in a downpour........and are drenched.  Since they were soaked, they decided to go shopping and buy new/dry clothes.  Ben went for the all white look....while Nicki decided that she wanted to wear a handkerchief disguised as a dress.  Even though her dress really didn't go well with her yellow nail polish. lol

While they were walking around, they got to watch a wedding.....and of course this caused them to start talking about Marriage.  They talked all about Nicki's first marriage. 

I think the funniest thing about this date was they looked like they were sitting in a big soup bowl when they were chatting. lol 

Nicki got the rose and several kisses too.

2nd date:-"Diamonds are a girl's best friend": Lindzi, Courtney, Jennifer, Kacie B, Rachel, Casey S, Emily, Jamie, & Blakeley

Yeah, so the date was totally NOT about jewelry.  What did they do??  Why play baseball of course.  Just what every girl wants to do on a date............(well, not this girl).

They divided into teams:

Team Red:                                Team Blue:
Courtney                                   Blakeley
Kacie B                                     Emily
Casey S                                    Jennifer
Jamie                                        Rachel
                   Lindzi (played with both teams)

The winning team got to have a beach party with Ben while the losing team goes back to the hotel.

Team Red won 10-9.  Therefore the Red team left on a helicopter (see another one)......and the Blue team left on a school bus.

Kacie B got the rose on this date.

3rd date - "Let's find love somewhere private": Elyse

They spent the day on a yacht and of course spent some time in the water.  (had to have all the bikini shots, ya know)

They had dinner on the beach.  Beautiful setting.

Elyse opened up to him, however, I don't think her telling him that she was "sick of being single" was the best thing to say.  (even if I totally understand and relate to what she was thinking) Doesn't make it seem like she was there to fall in love with him, but instead just looking not to be single and that any man would do.

Sadly, Elyse is going to be single a bit longer as Ben didn't give her the rose and sent her on her way in a life boat and he let the rose float in the ocean instead.


After Elyse's luggage is carried out of the hotel by the mysterious baggage removal men, Courtney decides to go visit Ben........wearing a bathrobe and not much else.  She met him at his door with champagne......then she convinced him to go skinny dipping in the ocean with her.  Ben, not surprisingly, agrees to do this and they bare all and go in the water.   *insert gag here*

Oh yeah, must give you the Courtney quote of the night: regarding Elyse leaving... "Maybe she drank too much and the Jersey Shore came out."


At the end of the evening everyone stayed except Jennifer (and of course Elyse).

Til next week...............


Friends.

Found out some sad news yesterday.  A friend of mine passed away on Jan 27 from cancer.  I had no idea.  I think in some ways, I'm still in a bit of shock.  We were good friends several years ago when we worked together and we talked every day/several times a day.  Then I don't remember what happened, but we lost touch.  Found out that the cancer had gotten really bad last year..........sure wish I would have known.  Would have found a way to call and/or write and let him know that I was thinking about him.  But, cannot do that now.  Even though I haven't talked to him in years, it never changes that he was my friend.  I miss you Joel and I'm so sorry that we lost touch. :(

I guess this loss has made me think a lot lately.  I'm the type of person that once we become friends, you are my friend for life.  We may grow apart, move away, not talk, or whatever, but that never stops you from being my friend.  I treasure my friends. 

I am blessed to have many friends, some that are closer than others, but I am thankful for each and every one.

Love your friends and treasure every moment that you have with them, for you never know when you may never get the chance to do that again.